Domestic Violence, YMCA, San Jose Ca



domestic violence

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Domestic violence crosses all ethnic, racial, age, national origin, sexual orientation, religious, and socioeconomic lines. Domestic violence can happen to anybody.  In fact, studies suggest that one-fifth to one-third of all women will be physically assaulted by a partner or ex-partner during their lifetime.  In heterosexual relationships, 95 percent of all victims are female; and 95 percent of all perpetrators are male.  In same-sex relationships, domestic violence happens with the same statistical frequency as in heterosexual relationships. Find out how to recognize domestic violence by clicking here.

How to Stay Safe

  • Keep a cell phone available to call 911. Many local YWCAs offer a free cell phone for this purpose.
  • If you are in a violent relationship and are afraid, ask neighbors or nearby friends to call the police if they hear violence – you may not be able to call. You may also want to teach your children to phone 911 or get help if it will not seriously endanger them.
  • Be aware of your surroundings. Stay in rooms with more than one exit so you do not get trapped in a room. Stay out of rooms with any sharp objects.
  • Use your judgment and intuition.
  • Keep an emergency bag with supplies in case you have to leave quickly.
  • Learn the signs of violence & get out when you see tension building.
  • Remove all sharp objects from countertops and line of sight.
  • Let trusted friends, family and work know what is happening so they can be there for you.
    Make copies of important records like bank accounts and financial information, birth certificates, Social Security cards, insurance agent, etc. Give them to someone you trust or hide them, preferably outside your home.

How to Stay Safe When Leaving an Abusive Relationship

  • Only let trusted friends & family know your plan.
  • If you are employed, talk to security at your job or your boss about the situation, so they can help you develop a work safety plan.
  • Gather and make copies of important documents.  Your local YWCA may be able to provide you an essential document list to help you plan what you will need.   
  • Take your children and pets.
  • Rehearse your departure.
  • Plan your escape route.
    PlNotify your children’s school if the other parent is not supposed to pick up children, and not to release information about your address or phone number. Some states allow you to use a state post office box number to protect your address.
    Vary your routes and times to and from work. Consider changing your work location.
  • Remember that no one deserves to be abused!

If You are Attacked

  • If an attack is in progress or about to happen, call 911. Protect yourself, children and pets.
  • Police policy is to arrest someone if they find that an assault has occurred.
  • If they arrest an abuser, the police should call a domestic violence advocate. Many local YWCAs have advocates, but if yours doesn’t the police will know whom to contact.
  • Go to a hospital emergency room if injuries are severe. Ask them to document injuries. Ask a nurse to call an advocate to provide support and help you with immediate safety planning.
  • Consider a domestic violence protection order.
  • Create a safety plan.
  • Document injuries with photos and witnesses. You may need them later.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233); TTY 1-800-787-3224


Narika, Domestic Violence Organization, San Jose Ca





Asian Women’s Home

Domestic Violence Organization

Crisis: 408-975-2739
Phone: 408-975-2730

Narika Helps Women Who:

  • Are abused by their husband or partner
  • Are abused by their in-laws and/or family members
  • Are being harrassed or stalked by an ex-husband/boyfriend/partner
  • Experienced violent and abusive homes
  • Are forced or pressured into arranged marriages
  • Are abondoned, divorced, or widowed
  • Have children who have witnessed maternal abuse
  • Are pressured and threatened by dowry demands
  • Are victims of rape
  • Are in abusive same-sex relationships
  • Are subjected to sexual harrassment or unwanted sexual advances in workplaces, homes, schools, colleges and other social settings
  • Are dealing with cultural identity issues, inter-generational conflict, and sexual identity issues

Maitri, Domestic Violence Organization, San Jose Ca

Maitri Toll Free Hotline: 1.888.8.MAITRI

National Domestic Violence Toll Free Hotline: 1.800.799.SAFE
 234 East Gish Road, Suite #200, San Jose, CA 95112

Toll Free Hotline: 1-888-8MAITRI
Local Hotline: 1-408-436-8398

Live Hotline Hours:
9am – 1pm (PST)

Maitri’s mission is three-fold:
  • To help integrate clients into the mainstream of American society, so that they feel comfortable and become full participants in it. Maitri recognizes that the very social and cultural separation or isolation that it’s clients experience contributes largely to their problems, and is a hindrance to their solutions.
  • To focus efforts on supplementing and complementing existing services, not on duplicating them. To this end, Maitri has developed close working relationships with mainstream agencies and organizations, as well as organizations working with similar ethnic groups.
  • To work towards fostering self-reliance and self-confidence in its clients. We believe that a large number of difficulties experienced by Maitri’s clients arise out of a real or perceived situation of dependency. This philosophy is encapsulated in Maitri’s motto of “Helping Women to Help Themselves” and Maitris mission statement:
    Maitri believes that the best human relationships are characterized by mutual respect, open communication, and individual empowerment. To that end, Maitri’s activities are designed to help South Asian women make an informed choice of the lives they lead.

Domestic Violence Video

Just saw this very powerful video on YouTube. I thought you might want to check it out.

Lets Talk Not Fight – San Jose Community Cares

Safe@work Coalition, Domestic Violence and the Workplace

Domestic Violence as a Workplace Issue

Domestic Violence is the leading cause of injury to women. It impacts one out of every four women. Problems of domestic violence frequently spill into the workplace. Batterers commit 13,000 violent acts against their partners in the workplace each year. Batterers also pose serious threats to the safety of their victims’ co-workers. Research shows that their husbands or boyfriends at work harassed 74 percent of employed battered women. Every month, domestic violence caused 56 percent of them to be late at least five times, 28 percent to leave early at least five days and 54 percent to be late for work at least five times. As a result many workers face disciplinary action.

Employment is the key to a domestic violence victim’s economic self-sufficiency, but the US General Accounting Office found that one-quarter to one-half of domestic violence victims surveyed lost a job due, at least in part, to domestic violence.

Go to the their website and download a PDF of their entire site.

The Domestic Violence Project of Silicon Valley California

If you or your family have been physically or emotionally abused please read the  Victums Handbook. If you live around Santa Clara County California you can find immediate help here.

If you live elsewhere, our web site is still for you. Then for help in your area call the National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800 799-SAFE (TDD 1-800-787-3224).

Here Is Their Website.