Domestic Violence, YMCA, San Jose Ca



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Domestic violence crosses all ethnic, racial, age, national origin, sexual orientation, religious, and socioeconomic lines. Domestic violence can happen to anybody.  In fact, studies suggest that one-fifth to one-third of all women will be physically assaulted by a partner or ex-partner during their lifetime.  In heterosexual relationships, 95 percent of all victims are female; and 95 percent of all perpetrators are male.  In same-sex relationships, domestic violence happens with the same statistical frequency as in heterosexual relationships. Find out how to recognize domestic violence by clicking here.

How to Stay Safe

  • Keep a cell phone available to call 911. Many local YWCAs offer a free cell phone for this purpose.
  • If you are in a violent relationship and are afraid, ask neighbors or nearby friends to call the police if they hear violence – you may not be able to call. You may also want to teach your children to phone 911 or get help if it will not seriously endanger them.
  • Be aware of your surroundings. Stay in rooms with more than one exit so you do not get trapped in a room. Stay out of rooms with any sharp objects.
  • Use your judgment and intuition.
  • Keep an emergency bag with supplies in case you have to leave quickly.
  • Learn the signs of violence & get out when you see tension building.
  • Remove all sharp objects from countertops and line of sight.
  • Let trusted friends, family and work know what is happening so they can be there for you.
    Make copies of important records like bank accounts and financial information, birth certificates, Social Security cards, insurance agent, etc. Give them to someone you trust or hide them, preferably outside your home.

How to Stay Safe When Leaving an Abusive Relationship

  • Only let trusted friends & family know your plan.
  • If you are employed, talk to security at your job or your boss about the situation, so they can help you develop a work safety plan.
  • Gather and make copies of important documents.  Your local YWCA may be able to provide you an essential document list to help you plan what you will need.   
  • Take your children and pets.
  • Rehearse your departure.
  • Plan your escape route.
    PlNotify your children’s school if the other parent is not supposed to pick up children, and not to release information about your address or phone number. Some states allow you to use a state post office box number to protect your address.
    Vary your routes and times to and from work. Consider changing your work location.
  • Remember that no one deserves to be abused!

If You are Attacked

  • If an attack is in progress or about to happen, call 911. Protect yourself, children and pets.
  • Police policy is to arrest someone if they find that an assault has occurred.
  • If they arrest an abuser, the police should call a domestic violence advocate. Many local YWCAs have advocates, but if yours doesn’t the police will know whom to contact.
  • Go to a hospital emergency room if injuries are severe. Ask them to document injuries. Ask a nurse to call an advocate to provide support and help you with immediate safety planning.
  • Consider a domestic violence protection order.
  • Create a safety plan.
  • Document injuries with photos and witnesses. You may need them later.

National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233); TTY 1-800-787-3224

2 Comments on “Domestic Violence, YMCA, San Jose Ca”

  1. amy says:

    i saw your web site & don’t know if I’m contacting the right place but i cant take it anymore 4 yrs ago i was on drugs & pregnant also had a 2 yr old and our kids were taken from us & their dad was arrested for DV & was given 1 yr in jail & a 1 yr program & we both did DV classes, parenting classes & therapy, i went into a Woman s drug program for 7 months before i was transferred into a women & children program with my kids for 6 month then we went into a 2yr housing program for family’s in recovery where their dad joined us & we had another baby, our time was up in June 2012 & we had to move into the real world with more then 3yrs clean we relapsed & the violence has started again in front of my 3 boys!! if i call the police they see me putting him in jail & im stuck in this apartment where the rent is $1500 a month, im a full time student & only waitress 1-2 days a week & dont make enough to cover it my mom lives in the same apartment 2 doors down & is on disability & has a very small 1 bedroom apartment, we go there sometimes butdont stay long, i dont want to take my kids to a shelter & im having a lot Trouble finding help on-line, i need some kind of temporary/long term safe housing for my kids where im able to stay in school & still receive the help & support i desperately need! i need to set-up this up before i pack & leave cause every time we do leave we end up coming back here cause we got no where else to go & when we leave i wanna make sure my boys have all their toys & clothes & movies they shouldnt have to leave their stuff behind

    • Anonymous says:

      Amy I hope you have found better times. I know how impossible it is. It seems like all you need is money,money,money, and you could protect yourself and your children and have a good life. I don’t see any way out either.I know your post was four years ago but it resonated with me. If you ever see this Good luck. Girl from San Jose

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